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Oral sex

Oral sex is all about using the mouth to kiss, suck or lick a person’s body parts. The mouth can be used on any part of a person’s body, from their forehead to their toes.

Did you know? Oral sex is not necessarily unhygienic. Taking a shower before oral if you've been sweating or had a long day may help make it more pleasurable, and don't forget protection!

You may have heard of these two oral sex terms: 

Cunnilingus - this means using parts of the mouth, like the lips and tongue, to stimulate someone’s vulva. The clitoris and the entrance to the vagina are extremely sensitive, and many people find having them stimulated intense and pleasurable.

AKA: ‘giving head’, ‘going down on someone’, or ‘eating out’.

Fellatio - this means sucking or licking a penis and/or scrotum. Just like with cunnilingus, some people find this intense and pleasurable 

AKA: 'giving head', ‘going down on someone’, or a 'blow job'.

It's not just about the genitals! 

You can also engage other parts of the body during oral sex. Think about what you are doing with your hands. You can touch your partner’s thighs, hips, stomach or breasts. Holding hands can also build connections during oral sex. 

Different people experience oral sex differently. 

  • Some people may like giving oral sex, but may not like getting it. 

  • Some people may like getting oral sex, but may not like giving it. 

Whatever the case, if you find that oral sex isn’t for you, that’s totally okay. It’s up to you and your partner/s to talk about it. 

Ask your partner! 

  • “Would you like me to suck/lick harder or softer?” 

  • “What do you enjoy about this?” 

  • “Should we change positions?” 

Safety check!

While you can’t get pregnant from oral sex, you and your partner/s can be at risk of getting a STI if you don’t protect yourselves. It’s best to use condoms or dental dams during oral sex.

Find out more about STIs here:

STIs - What you need to know