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What are clear "yes" messages?

Consent can sound like an enthusiastic “yes!”. It can also look like open and positive body language, like a person facing you and maintaining eye contact, or smiling and being close.

If you’re unsure whether you’re getting clear “yes” messages, then you need to stop and check in with the other person and ask how they are feeling. If you’re still not 100% sure if they’re into it, then they haven’t given their consent.

Remember! Consent isn’t a contract. A person can change their mind and take back their consent at any time so it’s important to keep the consent convo going.

What consent may look and sound like:

  • Yes!
  • I really want to
  • This feels great!
  • I want you/this/that
  • Can we do more of that?
  • This feels right
  • I still want to
  • Can you please do…
  • Don’t stop

What NO consent may look and sound like:

  • No
  • Stop
  • I feel scared
  • I’m not sure I want to do this
  • That hurts
  • Silence
  • I want to, but not right now
  • Slurred words
  • This feels wrong
  • Moving away
  • Crying
  • Putting clothes back on
  • Body language that shows the person is uncomfortable

Quiz yourself!

Want to check whether you’re up with the play?

Have a go at deciding whether or not there is consent being given or received in these scenarios. Consent isn’t always black and white, so we’re here to help you figure out those tricky grey areas.