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Flirting can make you feel pretty vulnerable and nervous, especially when you’re doing it in person. You may be thinking:
What if the other person doesn’t flirt back?
What if they reject me?
What do I do when the person is standing right in front of me?
Your own mind can be a powerful tool in this situation. If you think things are going to go badly, then you’re much more likely to be nervous. Try instead to think something like “Hey, let’s just give this a go!”. You might find that you end up making a great connection with someone.
Eye contact shows you’re interested in them and what they have to say, but don’t stare - that can make someone uncomfortable.
If something unexpected happens or you say the wrong word or stumble on a sentence, just go with it. Perhaps you can try making a joke to brush it off.
With so many distractions today (aka. technology!) it makes a big difference when you show genuine interest in the other person.
Try not to check your phone and really listen to them
Compliment them, and be genuine about it. Don’t just focus on their physical appearance either. What about their personality? Sense of humour?
Show an interest by asking them questions about their life, interests, etc.
Make sure to listen to their responses and ask a follow-up question
e.g
What music do you like? ... Yeah they are great. What's your fav song of theirs?
Use humour as long as it’s natural for you. Don’t go cracking jokes if it feels uncomfortable. And make sure that humour is appropriate - there can be a fine line between being funny and being hurtful/offensive.
Smiling exhibits warmth and confidence, and can work wonders! But again, be natural about it.
Remember! Flirting may work out, or it may not. Keep an eye on how the other person is responding. If they are making eye contact, smiling, or laughing, then it’s likely they’re comfortable in your presence. However, a person flirting back is never an open invitation for unwanted advances or sex. Keep checking in with the other person to make sure they’re okay, and if you ever notice they are uncomfortable, then stop.