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How to talk to someone you like

So you’re into someone? Awesome! Perhaps you’re feeling ready to chat with them and maybe even tell them how you feel.

You may feel like there is a lot on the line when it comes to talking to someone you like, as feelings are involved- but try not to let this discourage you! 

There are some ways to start a great conversation with the other person, which may lead to a valued connection.

Consider this!

Your own mind can be a powerful tool in this situation. If you think things are going to go badly, then you’re much more likely to be nervous. Try really hard to be positive and just give things a go. You might find that you connect really well with the other person, and develop an awesome friendship or relationship with them.

It sounds cliché, but just be you! Talk the way you naturally would with a friend. It's the best way for the person you like to get to know who you are.

If you’re not sure what to talk about, try to find something in common with the other person by asking about their life, likes and dislikes, interests, hobbies etc. Almost everyone can find things in common with one another.

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Asking questions is also a great way to take the pressure off yourself and give yourself a break from talking. Even though you made the first move, it’s about the two of you in the conversation - you don’t have to be the only one speaking.

You might find that you spend more time messaging your crush than actually hanging out with them. This is okay to begin with, but if you really like the person, try to spend more time talking to them in person than sending them messages online.

Remember! You need to always be mindful of the other person, and check to see whether they’re into the conversation. If you can sense that they’re getting uncomfortable, then it’s best to back off. It’s totally okay if the two of you don’t click. It can be disappointing and it can hurt, but we can’t force other people to be interested in us.

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