Research shows understanding and talking about pleasure and sexual pleasure is really protective for developing healthy and consensual relationships. Lots of things give us pleasure, like ice cream, a warm bath, or mountain biking. The thing about pleasure is that nobody else can tell you if you have experienced something pleasurable. Only you know what things feel like for you.

This means that your feelings are one of the best guides for what feels 'good', and is 'good' for you sexually. It is important to ask ourselves:

• Do I like this?
• Is this feeling good?
• Is this something I am enjoying?

So getting to know what feels pleasurable for your body is crucial to knowing what you like and what you don't. If we can't talk about what we like, how can we talk with a partner about what we like (and don't like)? Communication is key to good relationships. 

Watch The REAL Sex Talk team cover Pleasure and Masturbation. Ask yourself or a parent: why is this topic difficult to discuss for many people?