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How do I talk to my partner/s about contraception?

Talking with your partner/s about contraception may seem difficult or awkward, but it’s a necessary part of a healthy relationship.

Talking about contraception doesn’t mean that you don’t trust your partner/s - in fact, it means that you really care about their health, as well as your own.

Being able to talk about contraception can help you and your partner/s to feel supported when it comes to buying or accessing it. You could discuss how to manage the cost of contraception together. You could buy condoms together from Family Planning clinics, pharmacies, supermarkets, pubs, public toilets, nightclubs, dairies, sex shops, and online. You could attend an appointment together at your GP or sexual health clinic to discuss or access contraception.

Consider this! It’s a common worry that condoms ‘kill the mood’ when in fact they can be quite sexy! Talking about contraception with your partner/s before you have sex gives you both the opportunity to discuss how you could involve condoms in foreplay.

Conversation starters

Here are some ways to get your contraception conversation going!

  • Our relationship is important to me, so I’d like to see if we could reach an understanding about _____.


  • I’d like to chat about ______ with you, but first I’d like to hear what you think.


  • Can we talk about_______? I really want to hear your feelings and share mine too.


  • I have something I’d like to discuss that I think will be important for our relationship in the long run.


  • I’d like to discuss ________. I think we might have different ideas about _______.


  • I’d like to hear your thoughts on this.

Remember! Being able to discuss contraception with your partner/s makes for a healthy relationship. If your partner refuses to talk about, or use contraception, this might be a sign that you’re in an unhealthy relationship. Your partner should care about your health and wellbeing, as well as their own.

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